Today is all about my very per­so­nal story and expe­ri­ence with Free Blee­ding: How did I actually hear about it? How did I really learn it? I will share my ans­wers to your ques­ti­ons and tell the stroy about what Free Blee­ding means to me. For me, this arti­cle is a bit like a public love let­ter for blee­ding freely. Why? Because I feel like tel­ling you about it. So that Free Blee­ding gets a voice and thus beco­mes a bit more acce­si­ble and real. If you are won­de­ring what Free Blee­ding is, how it works and what it is all about, you can read all that here. 

A friend told me about Free Bleeding

One of my close friend first told me about Free Blee­ding a few years ago. She star­ted prac­ti­cing it by coin­ci­dence and a little out of neces­sity, because she was not satis­fied with con­ven­tio­nal period pro­ducts. And then at some point she men­tio­ned it rather casually to me. We were tog­e­ther in Mexico for several mon­ths and I was annoyed that tam­pons were not always avail­able. Or at least not the ones I liked to use. So I had packed the good old Ger­man tam­pons for several mon­ths. But I was not sure how many I would need for the hwole time. So I had just bought one package in mini, nor­mal and super. Howe­ver, I was not really satis­fied with my ‘solu­tion’.

If others can do it, I can do it too

I had become quite inte­res­ted when my friend said that she didn’t need any period pro­ducts any­more. I asked her like a thousand ques­ti­ons and she pati­ently gave me tips and told me about her expe­ri­ence with Free Blee­ding. Like so many others at first, I could not ima­gine that blee­ding freely could really work. But somehow I had become curious. I sim­ply said to mys­elf: If other people can do it, then maybe I can do it too. So I tried it during my next period and prac­ti­ced it more with every fol­lowing mens­trua­tion. And I can assure you: Free Blee­ding really does work! Some­ti­mes I can’t believe that I had to be in my mid-20s before I was able to dis­co­ver or get to know such a cool pos­si­bi­lity and func­tion on my own body. After all, I already had over ten years of mens­trual expe­ri­ence (with tampons).

My first experience with Free Bleeding

When people ask me if Free Blee­ding has worked for me since the begin­ning, I like to ans­wer the fol­lowing: Yes, it worked right away. Howe­ver, my com­fort level with blee­ding freely is much hig­her today than it was a few years ago. The fear and uncer­tainty I had at the begin­ning that it wouldn’t quite work and that maybe some mens­trual blood would leak was grea­ter back then than now. At the begin­ning I was quite inse­cure and always asked mys­elf: Do I have to discharge blood again? And usually my ans­wer was: Oh, I’d bet­ter go quickly again, just to be sure. I think that it influ­en­ced my ever­y­day life. I couldn’t think about anything else during my period. 

It is a learning curve to rediscover your own body

Prac­ti­cing Free Blee­ding was and still is a lear­ning curve as it requi­res radi­cal rethin­king and ques­tio­ning. And that requi­res rest, prac­tice and time. I first had to under­stand that I can learn to con­sciously discharge my period blood. It is a pro­cess, like many others in our body, which we can con­trol. Over time I got to know my own body in a com­ple­tely new way and per­cei­ved it more con­sciously. I have tried to under­stand it bet­ter and to be more atten­tive to my own needs – ins­tead of always working against me or my body and sup­pres­sing or at best igno­ring my peri­ods. Through my expe­ri­ence with Free Blee­ding I have lear­ned to accept that my period can also be some­thing beau­ti­ful. Nowa­days I always try to bleed freely. It makes me feel bet­ter and I am com­for­ta­ble with it. 

My head and uterus are communicating with each other

Over time I have deve­lo­ped faith for mys­elf and my body. I believe that my body can bleed freely and that ever­ything will be well. I also have the fee­ling that my body and I, so to speak my head and ute­rus, are com­mu­ni­ca­ting with each other and are con­nec­ted in a spe­cial way. It is a path to more natu­ral­ness and con­nec­tion with mys­elf. Through free blee­ding my period has been given a voice. It sets the rhythm, gui­des me and now deter­mi­nes my days during mens­trua­tion – as it should be. For me, free blee­ding is a form of art in which my body shows its­elf from its most beau­ti­ful side. Full of colour, full of joy. It is a dance of all sen­ses to live mens­trua­tion so consciously.

Through my experience with Free Bleeding I have learned more about my body

In recent years I have also rese­ar­ched more about bio­logy and ana­tomy rela­ted to mens­trua­tion. I have loo­ked at how my body is actually built from the inside and where the mens­trual blood flows. I also paid more atten­tion to my mens­trual blood and quickly rea­li­sed that it is not a con­ti­nuous stream of blood – even if it is often con­veyed this way. With more know­ledge and a bet­ter under­stan­ding of my own body, my expe­ri­ence with Free Blee­ding now makes more sense in my mind as well. This in turn has given me more secu­rity and con­fi­dence. Now every time I have my period, I think: “Wow, I can con­trol my mens­trual blood. I’m doing some­thing I’m always being told I can’t do.” This is always the most beau­ti­ful reas­surance for mys­elf. It is such an uni­que fee­ling, what is pos­si­ble if we believe in our­sel­ves and our body! 

Curious to make your own experience with Free Bleeding?

Peri­ods are often pre­sen­ted in such a way that they nega­tively affect us, make us wea­ker. But now it is some­thing I can con­sciously con­trol. I actively design the days of my period. It is no lon­ger some­thing I want to hide or find dis­gus­ting. I wish that all people hear at least once about blee­ding free. And whoever is mens­trua­ting them­sel­ves should, in my opi­nion, try it out as it is a very spe­cial fee­ling when it works. Please feel free to send me your ques­ti­ons if you need tips for the begin­ning! If you bleed freely yourself, please tell me about your expe­ri­ence with Free Blee­ding: Who told you about it? How does it work for you? I’m so exci­ted to hear your per­so­nal stories.

Britta Wiebe, period education, Vulvani
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Britta Wiebe is the co-foun­der of Vul­vani. She loves rese­ar­ching, wri­ting and designing new arti­cles or inno­va­tive edu­ca­tio­nal con­cepts about mens­trua­tion all day long. When she is not tra­vel­ling the world, she enjoys spen­ding time with her loved ones in the beau­ti­ful city of Ham­burg in Germany.