Even as a young woman it was clear to me that I wan­ted to talk openly and natu­rally about my (first) period with my family. And that it was espe­cially important to me to talk openly with my child­ren to break the taboo of the first period. 

In addi­tion to our con­ver­sa­ti­ons, I han­ded my daugh­ters a book that exp­lains mens­trua­tion pro­foundly. Not just the bio­lo­gi­cal facts or how to deal with hygiene pro­ducts. A book that under­stands mens­trua­tion as a tran­si­tion from girl to woman and marks this tran­si­tion as some­thing spe­cial. I was only able to find this book in Eng­lish and so I took the chance to trans­late it into Ger­man: “Dem Mond so nah” (Close to the moon) was publis­hed this summer.

Here is my per­so­nal story:

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Eagerly awaited: My first menstruation

The sub­ject of mens­trua­tion was an incredi­bly fasci­na­ting one for me as a young girl, just before ent­e­ring my teens. The­re­fore I read ever­ything I could get my hands on about this topic. But except for the most important bio­lo­gi­cal facts in school and a youth ency­clo­pe­dia, which I found in my par­ents’ books­helf, I didn’t feel very enligh­ted. Addi­tio­nally, of course, you could find a lot of infor­ma­tion in the then fashion­able maga­zi­nes Bravo, Girl! or Mäd­chen. Nevertheless, the first period was a taboo sub­ject. I don’t remem­ber anyone tal­king openly about it in my family. Even my older sis­ter didn’t tell me when she had her first period. People sim­ply kept quiet about the sub­ject as much as possible.

None­theless, I was liter­ally feve­rishly awai­t­ing my first mens­trua­tion. For me, this entry into woman­hood had some­thing magi­cal and spe­cial about it. It felt to me as if I was ent­e­ring a new world.

No reason to celebrate? The taboo of the first period

I’m all the more sur­pri­sed that today, I actually can’t remem­ber my very first blee­ding: I can only remem­ber that I was 12 years. Maybe I can’t really remem­ber because I felt I couldn’t really talk openly about it with anyone at the time. Or maybe because the first blee­ding was not seen as some­thing posi­tive or even a rea­son to cele­brate neit­her in our family nor in my whole environment.

At that time, peri­ods were sim­ply some­thing a girl gets for the first time bet­ween the ages 11 and 14. We were told about hygiene pro­ducts and how to use them, and that it makes sense to take notes about the onset and dura­tion of your blee­ding to keep track of the cycle.

The birth control pill

Later, most girls took the birth con­trol pill, so there was no need to keep track any­more. Nowa­days, I’m per­so­nally quite cri­ti­cal of the birth con­trol pill and other hor­mo­nal con­tracep­tive methodsPeople often spoke dis­pa­ra­gin­gly about mens­trua­tion. Girls and women com­p­lai­ned about having their period “again” and how annoy­ing it was. To some, the blee­ding was dis­gus­ting and the­re­fore tried to avoid it com­ple­tely by taking the birth con­trol pill. 

New body awareness

By the time I was an adult and had become a mother, my rela­ti­ons­hip to my body and thus also to my peri­ods had com­ple­tely chan­ged. It began when I stop­ped taking the birth con­trol pill in my mid-20s and the­re­fore found my way back to my natu­ral cycle, which was sup­pres­sed by taking the pill. 

A few years ago, I then began to occupy mys­elf more inten­si­vely with the topic of mens­trua­tion again. Not least for the rea­son that my oldest daugh­ter slowly came into the age where she began to be inte­res­ted in the topic of the first period and star­ted to ask more ques­ti­ons. But also because I felt that this topic is still a taboo for many young girls, women and espe­cially mothers. I was also par­ti­cu­larly inte­res­ted in the role of the moon in rela­tion to the rhythm of my cycle, as well as the dif­fe­rent pha­ses that I could per­ceive each month based on my emo­ti­ons and thoughts. I star­ted rea­ding a lot about these topics and obser­ved mys­elf and my body very closely.

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A book to guide the way to fight the taboo of the first period

Since we love books, I felt a great need to give my daugh­ters one that con­veys a posi­tive and empowe­ring rela­ti­ons­hip with their bodies and mens­trua­tion. Some­thing that cap­tures the magic of chan­ging from a girl to a woman, yet is prac­ti­cal and down to earth. A book so com­pre­hen­sive, that it can be seen as a guide for young girls on their way to beco­m­ing women. But at that time, I couldn’t find a book in Ger­man which met these requi­re­ments. That genui­nely put into words what I felt inside me in rela­tion to menstruation.

Since I already knew the Eng­lish book “Reaching for the moon”  by the Irish aut­hor Lucy H. Pearce and thought it was great, I con­ta­c­ted her and asked whe­ther this book would also be publis­hed in Ger­man in the near future, which she denied. I spon­ta­ne­ously recei­ved the offer to trans­late this book into Ger­man and immedia­tely accepted.

A journey to a new world

With this trans­la­tion and the deeper dive into the topic of mens­trua­tion, an intense jour­ney star­ted: to mys­elf, to my body and to my cycle. This jour­ney led me to insights about female princi­ples and to a time when the tran­si­tion from girl to woman was still mar­ked by ritu­als and cele­bra­ti­ons. I could liter­ally feel my body con­nec­ting to the rhythms of nature – stron­ger than ever. A con­nec­tion that felt somehow sac­red. Exactly what I had felt as a young girl…namely, that as a girl you enter a new world at the onset of mens­trua­tion. In addi­tion, there was some­thing enor­mously healing about lear­ning a dif­fe­rent, loving and posi­tive way of dealing with mens­trua­tion as an adult woman and mother.

The female cycle and the moon

The Ger­man title of the book “Dem Mond so nah” (“So Close to the Moon”) very vividly descri­bes the con­nec­tions bet­ween the female cycle and the pha­ses of the moon. It starts with a fic­tio­nal jour­ney to a red tent. A place where women and girls tra­di­tio­nally met once or several times a month to cele­brate being a woman, and the­re­fore also mens­trua­tion, in a spe­cial way. The book also descri­bes the phy­si­cal chan­ges before the onset of the first period. But also during the cycle, such as chan­ged vagi­nal discharge, as well as chan­ged moods and energy levels. It also addres­ses hygiene pro­ducts (espe­cially alter­na­tive hygiene pro­ducts), as well as natu­ral reme­dies for dis­com­fort while mens­trua­ting. In great detail, it descri­bes the sta­ges that all women go through during their cycle. I immedia­tely reco­gni­zed mys­elf in these descrip­ti­ons and felt an invi­si­ble bond con­nec­ting all women.

To me, the book is a real tre­a­sure for young girls, but also for adult women. It offers so much know­ledge and wis­dom about under­stan­ding and con­fi­dently dealing with one’s own cycle. At the same time, it is writ­ten in a very sen­si­tive way, easy to read and under­stand. I am con­vin­ced that books like this help to break the taboo of the first period.

The rhythms of nature

Today I have a very natu­ral rela­ti­ons­hip with my female cycle. I feel so stron­gly con­nec­ted to my body and my cycle that I can clearly feel the indi­vi­dual cycle pha­ses. I know when my ovu­la­tion takes place and when my period arri­ves, navi­ga­ted by the moon. Because – as I have lear­ned – it can be a guide and its pha­ses are simi­lar to those of my cycle. Having such a strong con­nec­tion to the rhythms of nature has actually ope­ned up new worlds for me. 

Even during my cur­rent pregnancy I feel this con­nec­tion clearly – and: I am already trans­la­ting the next book by Lucy H. Pearce on the sub­ject of mens­trua­tion. But this time for adult women, because for me, the taboo around mens­trua­tion and the female cycle belongs to be cras­hed, so that we as women can find a new, strong self-con­fi­dence and dis­card the shame that usually revol­ves around our mon­thly bleeding.

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Katja 
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Katja Schmid is mar­ried, mother of four child­ren and lives in Sou­thern Ger­many. For over eight years she has been working as a coach, intui­tion- and rela­ti­ons­hip trai­ner for women. The self-con­fi­dent hand­ling of fee­lings, one's own body as well as a life in har­mony with one's own rhythms and those of nature form a cen­tral core in Katja's work. Cur­r­ently she focu­ses on her family, her blog and trans­la­ting empowe­ring books for girls and women.